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The One Thing Narcissists Never Want You To Build... Because Once You Do, They Can't "Get In" Anymore. (Now Yours)

"A'ohe pau ka 'ike i ka hālau ho'okahi"

"All knowledge is not taught in one school" — Hawaiian Wisdom

Golden Obsidian Pendant - The Mirror Shield

Hi, my name is Susan Cooper.

What I'm about to share is going to sound insane.

Maybe even scary.

But if you've left a narcissist and still feel haunted—still feel drained—still wake up at 3 AM feeling their presence...

Then what happened to my ex in those 18 days might be exactly what you need to hear.

For 14 months after I left him, I did everything "right."

Therapy twice a week. Blocked him everywhere. Moved apartments. Changed my number. Set boundaries with flying monkeys. Bought crystals, did cord-cutting, worked with an energy healer.

Everyone told me I was "doing so well."

But I wasn't well.

I was still bleeding energy to a man I no longer lived with. A man I no longer spoke to. A man 800 miles away in Austin.

At 3 AM, I'd wake up gasping.

His presence so thick in my room I could barely breathe.

During the day, sudden waves of exhaustion—like someone was draining my battery from a distance.

The intrusive thoughts never stopped. His voice. His criticisms. His energy. It was like he'd moved out of my house but stayed inside my body.

  • ● My therapist said "trauma" and "healing takes time."
  • ● My energy healer said my "cords needed more clearing work."
  • ● My friends said "stop thinking about him."

But I knew—deep in my bones—this wasn't normal PTSD.

This was something else.

Something nobody was telling me about.

I was starting to think I'd never be free.

That maybe some part of me would always belong to him.

The Horror Movie Nobody Else Could See

Let me paint you a picture of my life 14 months after leaving him.

On the surface? I looked fine.

Good job. Nice apartment. Supportive friends. Therapist who said I was "making progress."

But behind closed doors?

I was living in a horror movie nobody else could see.

Every morning, I'd wake up exhausted—like I'd run a marathon in my sleep. Chest tight and heavy. Like someone sitting on it.

This... presence. This feeling he was still watching. Still accessing me somehow.

He was 800 miles away. Zero contact. With someone new.

But I could FEEL him.

At work, mid-meeting, I'd get hit with exhaustion so intense I'd excuse myself to the bathroom.

Head in hands. Feeling like someone was sucking life force through an invisible straw.

My boss pulled me aside: "Susan, you seem... off lately."

How do you explain to your boss that your ex-boyfriend is energetically feeding on you from another state?

You don't.

You smile and say you've been tired.

THE NIGHTS WERE WORSE.

3 AM became my personal hell.

Like clockwork, I'd wake up gasping, heart racing, his presence so thick I'd turn on all the lights to prove I was alone.

One night, I smelled his cologne.

Another night, I heard his voice so clearly I said "Hello?" out loud.

Friends said "trauma responses."

Therapist said "hypervigilance" and gave me breathing exercises.

But I knew better.

This wasn't my brain playing tricks.

This was him. Still attached. Still feeding. Still draining me from a distance I couldn't see or measure or prove.

THEN THERE WERE THE INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

His voice became the narrator of my life.

"You're not good enough."

"You'll never find anyone better."

"You're damaged goods."

"This is your fault."

Grocery shopping—hear his criticism about how I dressed.

On a date—hear his mocking laugh.

Looking in the mirror—see myself through his eyes. Worthless. Pathetic. Broken.

My therapist called it "internalized abuse."

It felt like he was STILL IN MY HEAD.

Like he'd installed himself in my nervous system and I couldn't delete the program.

I SPENT A FORTUNE TRYING TO FIX IT.

  • ● $3,000 on therapy over 14 months
  • ● $400 on energy healer's cord-cutting ceremonies (worked 48 hours max)
  • ● $300 on crystals that stopped working after weeks
  • ● $150 on Reiki practitioner
  • ● $200 on online protection courses

None of it lasted.

I'd feel better for a day, maybe two.

Then the 3 AM wake-ups would start again. The exhaustion would return. His presence would flood back.

Like trying to hold water in my hands.

THE WORST PART?

Everyone thought I was doing great.

"You're so strong for leaving him."

"You're doing everything right."

"Time heals all wounds."

But they were wrong.

He DID have power over me.

Time wasn't healing anything—it was just making me better at hiding my suffering.

I started to wonder if this was just... my life now.

If maybe I'd given him so much during those 7 years that some part of me would always belong to him.

That thought terrified me more than anything.

I Had Two Choices: Find A Way To Actually Break Free—Or Accept Being His Energy Slave Forever

It was a Tuesday night. November 14th.

I'll never forget the date because that was the night I realized I had two choices:

Find a way to actually break free...

Or accept being energetically chained to my abuser for the rest of my life.

I'd been in bed an hour, trying to sleep, when it hit me.

That familiar dread. Tightness in my chest. Sensation of invisible hands around my throat.

I sat up, turned on lights, started pacing.

3:17 AM.

And that's when I broke.

Completely, utterly broke.

I started screaming—at him, at the universe, at whatever invisible force was keeping me trapped.

"GET OUT OF MY BODY! GET OUT OF MY LIFE! I LEFT YOU! WHY ARE YOU STILL HERE?!"

My neighbor banged on the wall. I didn't care.

I collapsed on my living room floor, sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe, and whispered:

"Please. Someone. Something. Show me how to actually be free."

Breaking down at 3 AM

That night, I hit rock bottom. But something was about to change.

I wasn't religious. Not particularly spiritual.

But in that moment, I was desperate enough to pray to anything that might be listening.

I felt pathetic.

A grown woman screaming at invisible energy on her floor at 3 AM.

But something had shifted.

I wasn't willing to accept this as my reality anymore.

I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life as his remote energy source.

If there was an answer out there—ANY answer—I was going to find it.

The Answer Nobody In The "Healing Community" Was Talking About

THE NEXT MORNING, I CALLED MY FRIEND RACHEL.

We'd met in a support group for abuse survivors 2 years ago.

She'd been through her own nightmare with a narcissistic ex.

If anyone would understand, it was her.

She texted back immediately: "Starbucks on 5th? 10:30?"

I SHOWED UP LOOKING LIKE HELL.

Dark circles. Unwashed hair in a messy bun. Oversized NYU hoodie I'd been living in for 3 days.

Rachel took one look at me and closed her laptop.

"Susan. What happened?"

I slid into the chair with my venti cold brew, hands shaking.

And I broke.

Meeting Rachel at the coffee shop

Rachel was about to tell me something that would change everything.

Right there in that Starbucks, morning rush around us, I told her everything.

The 3 AM wake-ups. His hands around my throat. The exhaustion therapy couldn't touch. The sense he was STILL feeding on me.

"I know it sounds crazy," I said. "Everyone thinks I'm doing so well. But I'm not. I'm still connected to him and I don't know how to break it."

Rachel was quiet.

Then she grabbed my hand.

"Susan. It doesn't sound crazy. It sounds like remote feeding."

I stopped breathing.

"What?"

"Remote feeding. It's when narcissists continue draining your energy after you leave. They just switch to long-distance mode."

A woman at the next table glanced over. Rachel lowered her voice.

"How do you know about this?" I whispered.

"Because I went through the exact same thing for 11 months after I left Derek."

SHE TOLD ME HER STORY.

For 11 months after leaving her ex, Rachel experienced everything I was experiencing.

3 AM wake-ups. His presence. Inexplicable exhaustion. His voice in her head.

She'd spent $5,000 on therapy, energy healers, and crystals from that shop in the East Village.

Nothing worked longer than days.

"I tried cord cutting," she said. "$150 per session in Brooklyn. Worked for 48 hours, then came back. Black tourmaline from SoHo? Maybe 2 weeks, then stopped."

"That's exactly what happened to me," I whispered.

"I know. Because that's what happens to everyone. Want to know why?"

I nodded, unable to speak.

"Because those stones ABSORB negative energy. Like sponges. Eventually they get saturated and stop working. You're just managing attacks temporarily, not sealing the cord."

My mind raced.

That made perfect sense.

Black tourmaline absorbs. Selenite absorbs. Amethyst absorbs. Which is why they all STOP working.

"So what do you do?" I asked desperately. "If absorption doesn't work, what does?"

Rachel smiled. A real smile.

The first genuine smile I'd seen from her in 2 years.

"You use something that REFLECTS instead of absorbs."

I STARED AT HER.

"Reflects?"

"Yeah. Like a mirror bouncing light back. If energy gets reflected back to the sender before it penetrates your field, it never drains you. And the protection never gets saturated."

It was so simple. So obvious.

Why hadn't anyone told me this?

"How did you find this out?"

"Completely by accident," Rachel said. "Last April in Sedona. Wandered into this shop—Desert Rose Crystals. The woman looked at me and said, 'You're still connected to someone feeding on you.'"

I got chills.

"She told me about something ancient Hawaiian warriors used when enemy shamans tried to drain them before battle. Something FORBIDDEN to common people for thousands of years."

"Why forbidden?"

Rachel's eyes got intense.

"Because rulers knew: people who can't be energetically drained can't be controlled."

Holy shit.

"What is it?" I asked, barely above a whisper.

"It's called Golden Obsidian."

RACHEL PULLED SOMETHING OUT FROM UNDER HER SHIRT.

A pendant on a black cord.

A small sphere of black volcanic glass with streaks of gold running through it like lightning.

Maybe 16mm across.

It caught the Starbucks window light, and the gold seemed to shimmer. Beautiful.

Golden Obsidian Pendant

Golden Obsidian: The ancient mirror shield.

"This is Golden Obsidian," she said. "Not regular obsidian. Not black tourmaline. Volcanic glass with golden pyrite inclusions."

I couldn't look away.

"The golden sheen creates electromagnetic properties regular obsidian doesn't have. It works like a mirror shield. Energy hits it and bounces straight back."

"Does it actually work?"

Rachel looked me dead in the eyes.

"Susan. Within 48 hours of putting this on, I slept through the night for the first time in 11 months. Within a week, Derek's flying monkeys stopped texting—his sister said I 'felt different, not safe to approach.' Within 2 weeks, his life started falling apart. Tesla broke down. Got laid off. New girlfriend moved out."

I couldn't breathe.

"It was like all the energy he'd stolen suddenly bounced back to him at once," Rachel said quietly. "The cord is gone. Not managed. GONE."

Tears streamed down my face.

A barista called out "Grande caramel macchiato!" and the normalcy felt surreal.

"Where did you get it?"

"Online. From this brand called SPIRAD. They specialize in spiritual protection for empaths and abuse survivors."

Rachel pulled out her iPhone, opened Safari, slid it across the table.

The website was beautiful. Clean design. Deep purples and golds. Photos of Golden Obsidian pendants.

But what caught my attention was the copy:

"For empaths still bleeding energy to the narcissist they left..."

"When boundaries, therapy, and crystals only work for a few days..."

"The ancient mirror shield that seals what absorption stones can't..."

I felt SEEN.

"SPIRAD," I said slowly. "Never heard of them."

"They're small. The founder went through narcissistic abuse herself. She sources authentic Golden Obsidian, hand-selects each piece, sizes them as 16mm spheres for throat chakra placement. Each one's cleansed and charged before shipping."

Rachel scrolled to testimonials.

Dozens of them.

Women describing MY experience:

"Slept through the night for first time in 8 months..."

"His flying monkeys suddenly stopped..."

"Within 2 weeks, his life fell apart..."

"The cord is GONE..."

"She ships anywhere. Usually 3-5 days. I'm telling you, Susan. This changed my life. It'll change yours too."

My hands shook.

But I knew—deep in my bones—this was it.

This was the answer I'd been praying for at 3:17 AM.

"Thank you," I whispered.

Rachel squeezed my hand.

"You're going to be free, Susan. Actually free. I promise."

THAT NIGHT AT 11:47 PM, I ORDERED ONE.

Sitting on my couch on West 23rd Street, laptop on my knees.

$49.

After spending $4,000 on solutions that didn't work, $49 felt like nothing.

But more than that—I felt HOPE for the first time in 14 months.

Real hope.

Not "maybe this will help" hope.

But "this is actually going to work" hope.

Order confirmation hit my inbox at 11:49 PM.

Estimated delivery: November 18th, 2024.

Three days.

Those were the longest 3 days of my life.

The Forbidden Protection Restricted To Royalty For 2,850 Years - Because "People Who Can't Be Drained Can't Be Controlled"

THE PACKAGE ARRIVED NOVEMBER 18TH AT 2:14 PM.

I was working from home—or pretending to.

I'd been refreshing FedEx tracking every hour since 6 AM.

When I heard the knock, I practically ran to the door.

Small padded envelope. Return address: Sedona, Arizona. SPIRAD logo.

Hands shaking, I opened it.

Inside: a velvet pouch. Deep purple. Soft.

A small card:

"Your Golden Obsidian has been cleansed in desert sage smoke and charged under the full moon. It's ready to work. Simply wear it at your throat chakra and let it do what it was designed to do for 2,850 years. - Elena"

I opened the pouch.

There it was.

A perfect 16mm sphere of black volcanic glass with streaks of gold running through it like captured lightning.

Heavier than expected. Smooth. Cool to touch.

The gold inclusions caught my living room light and seemed to glow from within. Beautiful.

But more than that—it felt... powerful.

Like it was humming with energy I couldn't explain.

I know that sounds woo-woo.

But I felt it.

I PUT IT ON IMMEDIATELY.

2:27 PM, November 18th.

The cord was simple—black silk, adjustable.

I positioned the sphere at the hollow of my throat. Where Rachel said energetic cords attach. Where ancient warriors wore it before battle.

And then... nothing.

No surge of energy. No tingling. No mystical download.

Just... a stone around my neck.

I'll admit—flicker of disappointment.

After all that buildup, I expected SOMETHING.

But Rachel warned me: "The most powerful things work quietly. Don't expect fireworks. Just pay attention to what changes."

So I went back to work.

THAT NIGHT, SOMETHING STRANGE HAPPENED.

Bed at 11:30 PM—my usual time.

Usual routine: lock door, check twice, white noise machine, lights off.

Bracing for the inevitable 3 AM wake-up.

The panic. The gasping. The presence.

But it never came.

I woke up at 7:15 AM to my alarm.

Sat up in bed, confused.

Checked my phone. 7:15 AM.

I'd slept through the entire night.

First time in 14 months.

No 3 AM wake-up. No gasping for air. No invisible hands around my throat.

I actually said out loud: "What the hell?"

I touched the Golden Obsidian pendant, still around my neck.

Still cool. Still smooth. Still just... there.

Could it really be THIS?

What Happened In The First 48 Hours After I Put It On—And Why My Ex's Life Started Falling Apart On Day 6

DAY 2: NOVEMBER 19TH.

Woke up again at 7:30 AM.

Two nights in a row.

The tightness in my chest—there for 14 months like constant weight—was lighter. Not gone. But lighter.

Like someone lifted off a 20-pound vest I didn't realize I'd been wearing.

At work around 11 AM, my coworker Jessica stopped by my desk.

"Hey, did you get new skincare or something?"

I looked up. "What?"

"You look... different. More rested? Your skin is glowing."

I hadn't changed anything. No new skincare. Just two normal nights after 14 months of insomnia.

Just the pendant.

"Thanks," I said, touching it instinctively. "I've been sleeping better."

I went to the bathroom at lunch and looked in the mirror.

She was right.

Dark circles lighter. Eyes clearer. Face less... haunted.

Two days. It had been TWO DAYS.

DAY 3: NOVEMBER 20TH.

Slept through the night again. Three nights in a row.

When I woke up, I realized something:

I hadn't thought about him since putting on the pendant.

Not once.

Usually he was the first thing I thought about waking up. His voice. His criticisms. His energy.

But for three mornings, I'd woken up thinking about... nothing.

Normal thoughts. What to wear. Breakfast. Work.

Normal, boring, BLISSFULLY PEACEFUL thoughts.

No intrusive voice. No his presence. No energetic drain.

I sat on my bed, hand on pendant, and whispered:

"Holy shit. It's actually working."

DAY 5: NOVEMBER 22ND.

At my desk when I got a text from an unknown number.

Almost deleted it. But something made me open it.

"Hey Susan, it's Mark (Jason's friend from college). Jason asked me to reach out. He's been trying to contact you and you blocked him everywhere. He said it's important. Can you call him?"

Jason. My ex. The narcissist I'd left 14 months ago.

Usually seeing his name—even through a flying monkey—would trigger immediate anxiety.

Chest tightening. Heart racing. Familiar dread.

But I felt... nothing.

I stared at the text. Read it again.

Still nothing.

No anxiety. No fear. No anger.

Just... mild annoyance that Mark was bothering me.

I typed back: "Tell Jason I'm not interested in contact. Please don't message me again."

Blocked Mark's number. Went back to work.

It took me an hour to realize what just happened.

A flying monkey reached out—the thing that used to send me spiraling for DAYS—and I'd handled it in 30 seconds without any emotional reaction.

The cord was weakening. I could feel it.

DAY 6: NOVEMBER 23RD.

This is when things got... weird.

I was having coffee with Rachel at the same Starbucks where she'd told me about Golden Obsidian.

My phone buzzed.

Text from my friend Michelle (still friends with Jason on social media).

"Um... is Jason okay? He just posted something really strange."

She'd sent a screenshot of his Instagram story from 2 hours ago. Photo of his car on the highway. Hood smoking.

Caption: "Universe really testing me today. Transmission completely dead on highway. $3,500 repair. FML."

I stared at the screenshot.

Rachel looked over my shoulder.

"When did you put on the pendant?" she asked quietly.

"November 18th. Six days ago."

Rachel's eyes went wide.

"Susan. It's starting."

"What's starting?"

"The reflection. The mirror effect. All the energy he's been stealing from you for 14 months? It's bouncing back to him now."

I felt a chill.

"You're saying his car broke down because—"

"Because you sealed the cord," Rachel interrupted. "He's been feeding on your energy. That's probably how he's been functioning. Now that supply is cut off AND reflected back. He's going to feel it."

I didn't know whether to feel vindicated or terrified.

"Rachel, his car breaking could just be coincidence—"

"Maybe," Rachel said. "Or maybe not. Just pay attention to what happens next."

DAY 8: NOVEMBER 25TH.

Another text from Michelle.

"Okay, Jason is definitely going through something. He just posted that he got laid off. WTF is happening?"

I opened the screenshot. A LinkedIn post from Jason:

"After 4 years with TechVision, today was my last day. Sometimes the universe has other plans. Looking forward to the next chapter."

Comments full of "Sorry to hear this" and "You'll land on your feet."

But I knew.

This wasn't coincidence.

His car broke down Day 6. Laid off Day 8.

Two major disruptions in 3 days. Right after I sealed the cord.

I texted Rachel: "He got laid off."

She texted back immediately: "I told you. Mirror effect. Everything he took from you is crashing back. My ex lost his job Day 9. Girlfriend left Day 14. Car accident Day 16. Universe collecting debt all at once."

I sat on my couch, pendant in hand, processing.

I'd wanted to be free. I hadn't expected HIS life to fall apart.

But Rachel's words echoed: "All the energy he stole is bouncing back."

DAY 10: NOVEMBER 27TH.

I was sleeping 8 hours consistently now. No nightmares. No 3 AM wake-ups. No his presence.

The chest tightness—there for 14 months—was completely gone.

I felt... light.

Like I'd been carrying a 50-pound backpack for 14 months and someone finally took it off.

Coworkers kept commenting: "You're glowing." "You seem happier." "New medication?"

I just smiled and said I was sleeping better.

But internally, I was in awe.

Ten days. TEN DAYS for this pendant to do what 14 months of therapy couldn't.

DAY 12: NOVEMBER 29TH.

Getting ready for work when I got a text from unknown number.

My stomach dropped—another flying monkey?

I opened it.

"Susan, it's Jason. I know you blocked me. Texting from a friend's phone. I need to talk to you. Please. Something is really wrong and I think it has to do with you."

I read it three times.

"Something is really wrong and I think it has to do with you."

He FELT it. He felt the cord severing. He felt the energy reflecting back.

And he was reaching out desperate, trying to re-establish connection.

Two weeks ago, this text would've sent me into panic spiral.

But now?

I felt nothing. No fear. No guilt. No urge to respond.

I blocked the number and deleted the text.

And went to work.

DAY 14: DECEMBER 1ST.

Michelle sent another screenshot.

"Susan... I don't know if I should show you this but... Jason's girlfriend left him. He posted this an hour ago."

Screenshot: photo of Jason looking devastated.

Caption: "When you think you've found your person and they tell you they 'can't do this anymore.' 14 months down the drain. Feeling lost."

Fourteen months.

The exact time I'd been free from him. The exact time he'd been feeding on my energy while dating someone else.

And now, two weeks after I sealed the cord, she left.

Rachel predicted this. Day 14. Her ex's girlfriend left Day 14 too.

I stared at the screenshot.

Part of me felt vindicated. Part of me felt... free.

Like the final thread connecting me to him had been cut.

DAY 18: DECEMBER 5TH.

Two and a half weeks after putting on the pendant.

Walking to subway after work when my phone rang. Unknown number.

Almost didn't answer. But something told me to pick up.

"Hello?"

Silence. Then: "Susan?"

His voice. Jason's voice.

I should've hung up immediately. But I didn't.

Because I realized something:

His voice didn't affect me anymore.

No racing heart. No chest tightness. No flood of memories.

Just... sound waves.

A voice that used to control me. That used to live in my head. That used to drain me from 800 miles away.

And now it was just... sound.

"Don't call me again," I said calmly.

Hung up. Blocked the number. Kept walking to subway.

I touched the Golden Obsidian pendant at my throat.

Still there. Still cool. Still protecting me.

For the first time in 7 years—the entire relationship plus 14 months post-breakup— I was free.

Actually, completely, permanently free.

The cord was gone.

And I never heard from him again.

Day 1 vs Day 18 transformation

The difference 18 days made. The cord was sealed. I was finally free.

Why This "Mirror Shield" Works When Everything Else Failed—And What Kahunas Discovered About Energy Reflection

AFTER 18 DAYS OF TRANSFORMATION, I NEEDED TO UNDERSTAND WHY.

Why had this worked when $4,000 worth of therapy, energy healing, and crystals hadn't?

Why had the cord actually SEALED instead of just temporarily weakening?

And why had Jason's life fallen apart the moment mine got better?

I spent hours researching.

Reading everything I could find about Golden Obsidian, Hawaiian warrior traditions, and the science of energy protection.

And what I discovered changed how I understood everything.

LET ME EXPLAIN WHAT I LEARNED.

For 14 months, I'd been using the WRONG TYPE of protection.

Not because it was bad.

But because it was designed for a different kind of threat.

Think about it like this:

If someone throws water at you, you need an umbrella.

But if someone is DRAINING water from you through a hose, an umbrella does nothing.

You need to CUT THE HOSE.

That's what I'd been getting wrong.

HERE'S WHAT MOST PROTECTION STONES DO:

Black tourmaline, selenite, amethyst, rose quartz—they all work the same way.

They ABSORB negative energy.

Like a sponge soaking up water.

This works great for:

  • Clearing a room's energy
  • Protecting against random negative vibes
  • Absorbing environmental stress

But here's the problem:

Sponges get saturated.

Once they're full, they can't absorb anymore.

That's why your black tourmaline works great for 2-3 weeks... Then suddenly stops.

That's why you have to "cleanse" crystals constantly.

That's why energy healers tell you to leave them in moonlight or bury them in salt.

Because they're FULL of the energy they absorbed.

And if you don't cleanse them, they start LEAKING that energy back into your field.

Which is why you might actually feel WORSE after a few weeks of wearing saturated crystals.

BUT NARCISSISTIC FEEDING IS DIFFERENT.

It's not random negative energy floating in a room.

It's a TARGETED DRAIN.

An energetic cord connecting your field to theirs. 24/7.

Even when you're 800 miles away.

Even when you have zero contact.

Even when you blocked them everywhere.

The cord stays open.

And through that cord, they're actively pulling your energy like water through a hose.

Absorption stones can't help with this.

Because they're designed to soak up ambient negativity—not block an active drain.

It's like using a sponge to stop a siphon.

It doesn't address the actual problem.

Absorption stones vs Golden Obsidian reflection

Why absorption stones fail—and why Golden Obsidian's reflection works.

THAT'S WHERE GOLDEN OBSIDIAN IS DIFFERENT.

Golden Obsidian doesn't ABSORB.

It REFLECTS.

Like a mirror bouncing light back before it reaches your eyes.

When a narcissist sends energy toward you—through the cord, through their thoughts, through their intention to drain you—

That energy hits the Golden Obsidian and bounces straight back to them.

Before it ever penetrates your field.

Which means:

  1. You never absorb the attack
  2. The stone never gets saturated
  3. The protection works indefinitely
  4. The narcissist starts receiving their OWN energy back

This is why ancient Hawaiian warriors wore it.

When enemy kahunas sent "death prayers" (energetic attacks designed to drain life force before battle), the Golden Obsidian mirror shield would reflect those attacks back to the kahuna who sent them.

The warrior stayed protected.

The kahuna would end up draining HIMSELF.

Eventually, kahunas learned: don't attack warriors wearing mirror shields.

Because you'll just hurt yourself.

What 287 Other Abuse Survivors Experienced—And Why Their Narcissists Started Avoiding Them Within 14 Days

I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE.

After my transformation, I became obsessed with reading other women's experiences.

I went back to SPIRAD's website and read every single testimonial.

Then I found the private Facebook group for customers.

287 women. All abuse survivors. All who'd tried everything else first.

And all who experienced the same pattern I did.

THE TIMELINE WAS EERILY CONSISTENT.

I started documenting:

DAYS 1-3: The Sleep Returns

Almost every woman reported sleeping through the night within first 48-72 hours.

Jennifer from Portland:

"I slept 8 hours straight for first time in 9 months. Woke up crying because I forgot what that felt like."

Melissa from Chicago:

"Night 2. No nightmares. No 3 AM panic. I had a DREAM instead of reliving trauma."

Sarah K. from Austin:

"My Apple Watch tracks sleep. Before pendant: 4.5 hours with 8-12 wake-ups per night. After 3 days: 7.5 hours with 1-2 wake-ups. This is real."

DAYS 3-7: The Energy Shift

Within first week, women reported feeling "lighter."

Chronic exhaustion lifted. Brain fog cleared. Heaviness in chest disappeared.

Amanda from Seattle:

"Day 5. My coworker asked if I'd started new medication because I seemed 'so much more present.' Haven't changed anything except this pendant."

Rachel M. from Denver:

"Constant exhaustion I blamed on 'adrenal fatigue'? Gone in 6 days. My doctor was shocked by my energy levels at checkup."

Lindsey from Miami:

"Day 7. Realized I hadn't thought about him ONCE that day. Intrusive thoughts just... stopped."

DAYS 5-10: The Flying Monkeys Retreat

This shocked me most.

Woman after woman: His friends, his family—suddenly backed off.

Maria from Boston:

"Day 8. His sister who'd been texting weekly trying to 'mediate' sent final text: 'You feel different. Best we don't talk anymore.' I didn't respond. She just... knew."

Tanya from Phoenix:

"His best friend who'd been showing up at my gym 'coincidentally' for 6 months? Stopped after Day 9. Switched gyms. Never said a word to him."

Jessica from Nashville:

"Day 6. His mom called: 'I don't know what you did, but you're not the same person. You feel... protected. Untouchable.' Then never called again."

It was like Golden Obsidian created an energetic force field that repelled anyone connected to him.

They could FEEL it. Even if they didn't understand it.

DAYS 10-18: The Narcissist's Life Collapses

Within 2-3 weeks of sealing the cord, narcissistic exes experienced rapid, cascading life failures.

The pattern was so consistent it was almost scary.

Car troubles. Job loss. Relationship failures. Health issues. Financial problems.

All within days or weeks of victim sealing the cord.

Brittany from San Diego:

"Day 11: His car broke down. Day 14: Fired for 'performance issues.' Day 19: New girlfriend moved out. I didn't celebrate. Just watched in shock as universe collected what he owed."

Nicole from Philadelphia:

"My ex was successful real estate agent when I left 11 months ago. Still feeding on me remotely because he was thriving. Within 3 weeks of Golden Obsidian: biggest client fired him, car totaled (his fault), posted on Facebook asking to borrow money. The energy he'd been stealing was keeping him afloat."

Lauren from Atlanta:

"Day 7: His new supply called me (!) asking if I'd 'done something to him' because he'd become 'obsessed' with me suddenly. Day 12: She left him. Day 16: He showed up at my apartment begging me to 'undo whatever I did.' I closed the door in his face. Cord is sealed. Nothing to undo."

Danielle from Minneapolis:

"I put on pendant November 3rd. By November 21st (18 days), my narcissistic ex had: crashed motorcycle, been suspended from teaching job for 'erratic behavior,' checked into rehab for 'anxiety.' His life fell apart in exact timeframe mine came back together."

THE PATTERN WAS UNDENIABLE.

These weren't isolated incidents. This was happening to HUNDREDS of women.

Same timeline. Same progression. Same mirror effect.

One woman in the Facebook group put it perfectly:

"It's like they were running on stolen fuel. The moment we sealed the cord, their tank emptied. Then all the energy they'd stolen came crashing back at once. Universe doesn't forget. It just waited for us to stop being the crash pad."

BUT HERE'S WHAT SURPRISED ME MOST:

The narcissists could FEEL when the cord was sealed.

Multiple women reported exes reaching out in panic around Day 10-14.

Desperate texts. Strange calls. Showing up unannounced.

All with same theme: "Something is wrong. Did you do something to me?"

Samantha from Charlotte:

"Day 13: He texted from random number: 'I can't feel you anymore. What did you do? I need to see you.' Didn't respond. He texted 47 more times over 3 days. Each one more panicked. Then... silence. He finally got it. Supply was cut off."

Morgan from Kansas City:

"Day 11: He called crying (!!) saying he felt 'disconnected from everything' and needed my 'energy' to feel normal. He literally SAID 'energy.' I laughed and hung up. Last time I heard from him."

Kayla from Las Vegas:

"Day 14: Showed up at my workplace. Security escorted him out. He was screaming I'd 'done black magic' and could feel me 'blocking him.' Coworkers thought he was insane. But I knew exactly what he was feeling: the mirror shield. And his own energy bouncing back."

THESE WEREN'T JUST STORIES.

These were 287 documented cases of the same phenomenon.

Women drained for months or years after leaving. Women who'd spent thousands on therapy and healing. Women who'd tried every crystal, cord-cutting, protection ritual.

Nothing worked long-term. Until Golden Obsidian.

Within 2-3 weeks:

  • ✓ Sleep restored
  • ✓ Energy returned
  • ✓ Intrusive thoughts stopped
  • ✓ Flying monkeys retreated
  • ✓ Narcissist's life collapsed
  • ✓ Cord permanently sealed

The pattern was so consistent it couldn't be coincidence.

This was real. Measurable. The protection ancient warriors staked their lives on.

And it was working for modern abuse survivors the same way.

ONE WOMAN'S TESTIMONY MADE ME CRY.

Her name was Catherine from Richmond, Virginia.

She'd been out of her narcissistic marriage for 3 YEARS.

THREE YEARS. And still being drained.

Still waking at 3 AM. Still feeling his presence. Still exhausted despite "all the healing work."

Her therapist said "complex PTSD." Her energy healer said "cords particularly strong." Friends said "more time."

But time wasn't healing anything.

Then she found SPIRAD. Ordered Golden Obsidian. Put it on March 15th, 2024.

Here's what she wrote March 22nd (Day 7):

"I don't know how to explain this. For THREE YEARS I've been haunted. Therapy helped my mind but my body was still imprisoned. I thought this was just... my life now. That some part of me would always belong to him.

I've worn this pendant for 7 days.

The presence is gone. The 3 AM wake-ups are gone. The exhaustion is gone.

But here's the part that made me sob this morning:

I woke up and the first thought I had was about what I wanted for breakfast. Not him. Not his voice. Not his energy.

Breakfast.

A normal, boring, beautiful thought about BREAKFAST.

I haven't had a morning thought that wasn't about him in 3 years.

The cord is gone.

After $12,000 in therapy and energy healing over 3 years, a $49 pendant did in ONE WEEK what nothing else could.

I'm free. Actually, permanently, impossibly free.

If you're reading this and still haunted by someone you left—even if it's been YEARS—please try this. Please. You deserve to think about breakfast again."

I READ THAT TESTIMONY FIVE TIMES.

Then I understood why I needed to share my story.

Because there are thousands—maybe tens of thousands—of women out there right now.

Women who left their narcissists months or years ago. Women who did everything "right."

Therapy. Boundaries. No contact. Healing work.

But who are still being drained remotely.

Still waking at 3 AM. Still feeling their ex's presence. Still exhausted in ways that don't make sense.

Still imprisoned by an invisible cord nobody taught them how to seal.

And they think it's their fault.

They think THEY'RE not healing fast enough. They think THEY'RE too damaged. They think THEY need more therapy, more time, more work.

But the problem isn't them.

The problem is the cord was never sealed.

And absorption stones, cord-cutting ceremonies, and talk therapy can't seal it.

Only a mirror shield can.

The same protection ancient warriors used 2,850 years ago. The same protection restricted to royalty. The same protection now available—finally—to the women who need it most.

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Healing & Recovery - The One Thing Narcissists Never Want You To Build
Healing & Recovery

The One Thing Narcissists Never Want You To Build... Because Once You Do, They Can't "Get In" Anymore. (Now Yours)

"A'ohe pau ka 'ike i ka hālau ho'okahi"

"All knowledge is not taught in one school" — Hawaiian Wisdom

Golden Obsidian Pendant - The Mirror Shield

Hi, my name is Susan Cooper.

What I'm about to share is going to sound insane.

Maybe even scary.

But if you've left a narcissist and still feel haunted—still feel drained—still wake up at 3 AM feeling their presence...

Then what happened to my ex in those 18 days might be exactly what you need to hear.

For 14 months after I left him, I did everything "right."

Therapy twice a week. Blocked him everywhere. Moved apartments. Changed my number. Set boundaries with flying monkeys. Bought crystals, did cord-cutting, worked with an energy healer.

Everyone told me I was "doing so well."

But I wasn't well.

I was still bleeding energy to a man I no longer lived with. A man I no longer spoke to. A man 800 miles away in Austin.

At 3 AM, I'd wake up gasping.

His presence so thick in my room I could barely breathe.

During the day, sudden waves of exhaustion—like someone was draining my battery from a distance.

The intrusive thoughts never stopped. His voice. His criticisms. His energy. It was like he'd moved out of my house but stayed inside my body.

  • ● My therapist said "trauma" and "healing takes time."
  • ● My energy healer said my "cords needed more clearing work."
  • ● My friends said "stop thinking about him."

But I knew—deep in my bones—this wasn't normal PTSD.

This was something else.

Something nobody was telling me about.

I was starting to think I'd never be free.

That maybe some part of me would always belong to him.

The Horror Movie Nobody Else Could See

Let me paint you a picture of my life 14 months after leaving him.

On the surface? I looked fine.

Good job. Nice apartment. Supportive friends. Therapist who said I was "making progress."

But behind closed doors?

I was living in a horror movie nobody else could see.

Every morning, I'd wake up exhausted—like I'd run a marathon in my sleep. Chest tight and heavy. Like someone sitting on it.

This... presence. This feeling he was still watching. Still accessing me somehow.

He was 800 miles away. Zero contact. With someone new.

But I could FEEL him.

At work, mid-meeting, I'd get hit with exhaustion so intense I'd excuse myself to the bathroom.

Head in hands. Feeling like someone was sucking life force through an invisible straw.

My boss pulled me aside: "Susan, you seem... off lately."

How do you explain to your boss that your ex-boyfriend is energetically feeding on you from another state?

You don't.

You smile and say you've been tired.

THE NIGHTS WERE WORSE.

3 AM became my personal hell.

Like clockwork, I'd wake up gasping, heart racing, his presence so thick I'd turn on all the lights to prove I was alone.

One night, I smelled his cologne.

Another night, I heard his voice so clearly I said "Hello?" out loud.

Friends said "trauma responses."

Therapist said "hypervigilance" and gave me breathing exercises.

But I knew better.

This wasn't my brain playing tricks.

This was him. Still attached. Still feeding. Still draining me from a distance I couldn't see or measure or prove.

THEN THERE WERE THE INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

His voice became the narrator of my life.

"You're not good enough."

"You'll never find anyone better."

"You're damaged goods."

"This is your fault."

Grocery shopping—hear his criticism about how I dressed.

On a date—hear his mocking laugh.

Looking in the mirror—see myself through his eyes. Worthless. Pathetic. Broken.

My therapist called it "internalized abuse."

It felt like he was STILL IN MY HEAD.

Like he'd installed himself in my nervous system and I couldn't delete the program.

I SPENT A FORTUNE TRYING TO FIX IT.

  • ● $3,000 on therapy over 14 months
  • ● $400 on energy healer's cord-cutting ceremonies (worked 48 hours max)
  • ● $300 on crystals that stopped working after weeks
  • ● $150 on Reiki practitioner
  • ● $200 on online protection courses

None of it lasted.

I'd feel better for a day, maybe two.

Then the 3 AM wake-ups would start again. The exhaustion would return. His presence would flood back.

Like trying to hold water in my hands.

THE WORST PART?

Everyone thought I was doing great.

"You're so strong for leaving him."

"You're doing everything right."

"Time heals all wounds."

But they were wrong.

He DID have power over me.

Time wasn't healing anything—it was just making me better at hiding my suffering.

I started to wonder if this was just... my life now.

If maybe I'd given him so much during those 7 years that some part of me would always belong to him.

That thought terrified me more than anything.

I Had Two Choices: Find A Way To Actually Break Free—Or Accept Being His Energy Slave Forever

It was a Tuesday night. November 14th.

I'll never forget the date because that was the night I realized I had two choices:

Find a way to actually break free...

Or accept being energetically chained to my abuser for the rest of my life.

I'd been in bed an hour, trying to sleep, when it hit me.

That familiar dread. Tightness in my chest. Sensation of invisible hands around my throat.

I sat up, turned on lights, started pacing.

3:17 AM.

And that's when I broke.

Completely, utterly broke.

I started screaming—at him, at the universe, at whatever invisible force was keeping me trapped.

"GET OUT OF MY BODY! GET OUT OF MY LIFE! I LEFT YOU! WHY ARE YOU STILL HERE?!"

My neighbor banged on the wall. I didn't care.

I collapsed on my living room floor, sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe, and whispered:

"Please. Someone. Something. Show me how to actually be free."

Breaking down at 3 AM

That night, I hit rock bottom. But something was about to change.

I wasn't religious. Not particularly spiritual.

But in that moment, I was desperate enough to pray to anything that might be listening.

I felt pathetic.

A grown woman screaming at invisible energy on her floor at 3 AM.

But something had shifted.

I wasn't willing to accept this as my reality anymore.

I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life as his remote energy source.

If there was an answer out there—ANY answer—I was going to find it.

The Answer Nobody In The "Healing Community" Was Talking About

THE NEXT MORNING, I CALLED MY FRIEND RACHEL.

We'd met in a support group for abuse survivors 2 years ago.

She'd been through her own nightmare with a narcissistic ex.

If anyone would understand, it was her.

She texted back immediately: "Starbucks on 5th? 10:30?"

I SHOWED UP LOOKING LIKE HELL.

Dark circles. Unwashed hair in a messy bun. Oversized NYU hoodie I'd been living in for 3 days.

Rachel took one look at me and closed her laptop.

"Susan. What happened?"

I slid into the chair with my venti cold brew, hands shaking.

And I broke.

Meeting Rachel at the coffee shop

Rachel was about to tell me something that would change everything.

Right there in that Starbucks, morning rush around us, I told her everything.

The 3 AM wake-ups. His hands around my throat. The exhaustion therapy couldn't touch. The sense he was STILL feeding on me.

"I know it sounds crazy," I said. "Everyone thinks I'm doing so well. But I'm not. I'm still connected to him and I don't know how to break it."

Rachel was quiet.

Then she grabbed my hand.

"Susan. It doesn't sound crazy. It sounds like remote feeding."

I stopped breathing.

"What?"

"Remote feeding. It's when narcissists continue draining your energy after you leave. They just switch to long-distance mode."

A woman at the next table glanced over. Rachel lowered her voice.

"How do you know about this?" I whispered.

"Because I went through the exact same thing for 11 months after I left Derek."

SHE TOLD ME HER STORY.

For 11 months after leaving her ex, Rachel experienced everything I was experiencing.

3 AM wake-ups. His presence. Inexplicable exhaustion. His voice in her head.

She'd spent $5,000 on therapy, energy healers, and crystals from that shop in the East Village.

Nothing worked longer than days.

"I tried cord cutting," she said. "$150 per session in Brooklyn. Worked for 48 hours, then came back. Black tourmaline from SoHo? Maybe 2 weeks, then stopped."

"That's exactly what happened to me," I whispered.

"I know. Because that's what happens to everyone. Want to know why?"

I nodded, unable to speak.

"Because those stones ABSORB negative energy. Like sponges. Eventually they get saturated and stop working. You're just managing attacks temporarily, not sealing the cord."

My mind raced.

That made perfect sense.

Black tourmaline absorbs. Selenite absorbs. Amethyst absorbs. Which is why they all STOP working.

"So what do you do?" I asked desperately. "If absorption doesn't work, what does?"

Rachel smiled. A real smile.

The first genuine smile I'd seen from her in 2 years.

"You use something that REFLECTS instead of absorbs."

I STARED AT HER.

"Reflects?"

"Yeah. Like a mirror bouncing light back. If energy gets reflected back to the sender before it penetrates your field, it never drains you. And the protection never gets saturated."

It was so simple. So obvious.

Why hadn't anyone told me this?

"How did you find this out?"

"Completely by accident," Rachel said. "Last April in Sedona. Wandered into this shop—Desert Rose Crystals. The woman looked at me and said, 'You're still connected to someone feeding on you.'"

I got chills.

"She told me about something ancient Hawaiian warriors used when enemy shamans tried to drain them before battle. Something FORBIDDEN to common people for thousands of years."

"Why forbidden?"

Rachel's eyes got intense.

"Because rulers knew: people who can't be energetically drained can't be controlled."

Holy shit.

"What is it?" I asked, barely above a whisper.

"It's called Golden Obsidian."

RACHEL PULLED SOMETHING OUT FROM UNDER HER SHIRT.

A pendant on a black cord.

A small sphere of black volcanic glass with streaks of gold running through it like lightning.

Maybe 16mm across.

It caught the Starbucks window light, and the gold seemed to shimmer. Beautiful.

Golden Obsidian Pendant

Golden Obsidian: The ancient mirror shield.

"This is Golden Obsidian," she said. "Not regular obsidian. Not black tourmaline. Volcanic glass with golden pyrite inclusions."

I couldn't look away.

"The golden sheen creates electromagnetic properties regular obsidian doesn't have. It works like a mirror shield. Energy hits it and bounces straight back."

"Does it actually work?"

Rachel looked me dead in the eyes.

"Susan. Within 48 hours of putting this on, I slept through the night for the first time in 11 months. Within a week, Derek's flying monkeys stopped texting—his sister said I 'felt different, not safe to approach.' Within 2 weeks, his life started falling apart. Tesla broke down. Got laid off. New girlfriend moved out."

I couldn't breathe.

"It was like all the energy he'd stolen suddenly bounced back to him at once," Rachel said quietly. "The cord is gone. Not managed. GONE."

Tears streamed down my face.

A barista called out "Grande caramel macchiato!" and the normalcy felt surreal.

"Where did you get it?"

"Online. From this brand called SPIRAD. They specialize in spiritual protection for empaths and abuse survivors."

Rachel pulled out her iPhone, opened Safari, slid it across the table.

The website was beautiful. Clean design. Deep purples and golds. Photos of Golden Obsidian pendants.

But what caught my attention was the copy:

"For empaths still bleeding energy to the narcissist they left..."

"When boundaries, therapy, and crystals only work for a few days..."

"The ancient mirror shield that seals what absorption stones can't..."

I felt SEEN.

"SPIRAD," I said slowly. "Never heard of them."

"They're small. The founder went through narcissistic abuse herself. She sources authentic Golden Obsidian, hand-selects each piece, sizes them as 16mm spheres for throat chakra placement. Each one's cleansed and charged before shipping."

Rachel scrolled to testimonials.

Dozens of them.

Women describing MY experience:

"Slept through the night for first time in 8 months..."

"His flying monkeys suddenly stopped..."

"Within 2 weeks, his life fell apart..."

"The cord is GONE..."

"She ships anywhere. Usually 3-5 days. I'm telling you, Susan. This changed my life. It'll change yours too."

My hands shook.

But I knew—deep in my bones—this was it.

This was the answer I'd been praying for at 3:17 AM.

"Thank you," I whispered.

Rachel squeezed my hand.

"You're going to be free, Susan. Actually free. I promise."

THAT NIGHT AT 11:47 PM, I ORDERED ONE.

Sitting on my couch on West 23rd Street, laptop on my knees.

$49.

After spending $4,000 on solutions that didn't work, $49 felt like nothing.

But more than that—I felt HOPE for the first time in 14 months.

Real hope.

Not "maybe this will help" hope.

But "this is actually going to work" hope.

Order confirmation hit my inbox at 11:49 PM.

Estimated delivery: November 18th, 2024.

Three days.

Those were the longest 3 days of my life.

The Forbidden Protection Restricted To Royalty For 2,850 Years - Because "People Who Can't Be Drained Can't Be Controlled"

THE PACKAGE ARRIVED NOVEMBER 18TH AT 2:14 PM.

I was working from home—or pretending to.

I'd been refreshing FedEx tracking every hour since 6 AM.

When I heard the knock, I practically ran to the door.

Small padded envelope. Return address: Sedona, Arizona. SPIRAD logo.

Hands shaking, I opened it.

Inside: a velvet pouch. Deep purple. Soft.

A small card:

"Your Golden Obsidian has been cleansed in desert sage smoke and charged under the full moon. It's ready to work. Simply wear it at your throat chakra and let it do what it was designed to do for 2,850 years. - Elena"

I opened the pouch.

There it was.

A perfect 16mm sphere of black volcanic glass with streaks of gold running through it like captured lightning.

Heavier than expected. Smooth. Cool to touch.

The gold inclusions caught my living room light and seemed to glow from within. Beautiful.

But more than that—it felt... powerful.

Like it was humming with energy I couldn't explain.

I know that sounds woo-woo.

But I felt it.

I PUT IT ON IMMEDIATELY.

2:27 PM, November 18th.

The cord was simple—black silk, adjustable.

I positioned the sphere at the hollow of my throat. Where Rachel said energetic cords attach. Where ancient warriors wore it before battle.

And then... nothing.

No surge of energy. No tingling. No mystical download.

Just... a stone around my neck.

I'll admit—flicker of disappointment.

After all that buildup, I expected SOMETHING.

But Rachel warned me: "The most powerful things work quietly. Don't expect fireworks. Just pay attention to what changes."

So I went back to work.

THAT NIGHT, SOMETHING STRANGE HAPPENED.

Bed at 11:30 PM—my usual time.

Usual routine: lock door, check twice, white noise machine, lights off.

Bracing for the inevitable 3 AM wake-up.

The panic. The gasping. The presence.

But it never came.

I woke up at 7:15 AM to my alarm.

Sat up in bed, confused.

Checked my phone. 7:15 AM.

I'd slept through the entire night.

First time in 14 months.

No 3 AM wake-up. No gasping for air. No invisible hands around my throat.

I actually said out loud: "What the hell?"

I touched the Golden Obsidian pendant, still around my neck.

Still cool. Still smooth. Still just... there.

Could it really be THIS?

What Happened In The First 48 Hours After I Put It On—And Why My Ex's Life Started Falling Apart On Day 6

DAY 2: NOVEMBER 19TH.

Woke up again at 7:30 AM.

Two nights in a row.

The tightness in my chest—there for 14 months like constant weight—was lighter. Not gone. But lighter.

Like someone lifted off a 20-pound vest I didn't realize I'd been wearing.

At work around 11 AM, my coworker Jessica stopped by my desk.

"Hey, did you get new skincare or something?"

I looked up. "What?"

"You look... different. More rested? Your skin is glowing."

I hadn't changed anything. No new skincare. Just two normal nights after 14 months of insomnia.

Just the pendant.

"Thanks," I said, touching it instinctively. "I've been sleeping better."

I went to the bathroom at lunch and looked in the mirror.

She was right.

Dark circles lighter. Eyes clearer. Face less... haunted.

Two days. It had been TWO DAYS.

DAY 3: NOVEMBER 20TH.

Slept through the night again. Three nights in a row.

When I woke up, I realized something:

I hadn't thought about him since putting on the pendant.

Not once.

Usually he was the first thing I thought about waking up. His voice. His criticisms. His energy.

But for three mornings, I'd woken up thinking about... nothing.

Normal thoughts. What to wear. Breakfast. Work.

Normal, boring, BLISSFULLY PEACEFUL thoughts.

No intrusive voice. No his presence. No energetic drain.

I sat on my bed, hand on pendant, and whispered:

"Holy shit. It's actually working."

DAY 5: NOVEMBER 22ND.

At my desk when I got a text from an unknown number.

Almost deleted it. But something made me open it.

"Hey Susan, it's Mark (Jason's friend from college). Jason asked me to reach out. He's been trying to contact you and you blocked him everywhere. He said it's important. Can you call him?"

Jason. My ex. The narcissist I'd left 14 months ago.

Usually seeing his name—even through a flying monkey—would trigger immediate anxiety.

Chest tightening. Heart racing. Familiar dread.

But I felt... nothing.

I stared at the text. Read it again.

Still nothing.

No anxiety. No fear. No anger.

Just... mild annoyance that Mark was bothering me.

I typed back: "Tell Jason I'm not interested in contact. Please don't message me again."

Blocked Mark's number. Went back to work.

It took me an hour to realize what just happened.

A flying monkey reached out—the thing that used to send me spiraling for DAYS—and I'd handled it in 30 seconds without any emotional reaction.

The cord was weakening. I could feel it.

DAY 6: NOVEMBER 23RD.

This is when things got... weird.

I was having coffee with Rachel at the same Starbucks where she'd told me about Golden Obsidian.

My phone buzzed.

Text from my friend Michelle (still friends with Jason on social media).

"Um... is Jason okay? He just posted something really strange."

She'd sent a screenshot of his Instagram story from 2 hours ago. Photo of his car on the highway. Hood smoking.

Caption: "Universe really testing me today. Transmission completely dead on highway. $3,500 repair. FML."

I stared at the screenshot.

Rachel looked over my shoulder.

"When did you put on the pendant?" she asked quietly.

"November 18th. Six days ago."

Rachel's eyes went wide.

"Susan. It's starting."

"What's starting?"

"The reflection. The mirror effect. All the energy he's been stealing from you for 14 months? It's bouncing back to him now."

I felt a chill.

"You're saying his car broke down because—"

"Because you sealed the cord," Rachel interrupted. "He's been feeding on your energy. That's probably how he's been functioning. Now that supply is cut off AND reflected back. He's going to feel it."

I didn't know whether to feel vindicated or terrified.

"Rachel, his car breaking could just be coincidence—"

"Maybe," Rachel said. "Or maybe not. Just pay attention to what happens next."

DAY 8: NOVEMBER 25TH.

Another text from Michelle.

"Okay, Jason is definitely going through something. He just posted that he got laid off. WTF is happening?"

I opened the screenshot. A LinkedIn post from Jason:

"After 4 years with TechVision, today was my last day. Sometimes the universe has other plans. Looking forward to the next chapter."

Comments full of "Sorry to hear this" and "You'll land on your feet."

But I knew.

This wasn't coincidence.

His car broke down Day 6. Laid off Day 8.

Two major disruptions in 3 days. Right after I sealed the cord.

I texted Rachel: "He got laid off."

She texted back immediately: "I told you. Mirror effect. Everything he took from you is crashing back. My ex lost his job Day 9. Girlfriend left Day 14. Car accident Day 16. Universe collecting debt all at once."

I sat on my couch, pendant in hand, processing.

I'd wanted to be free. I hadn't expected HIS life to fall apart.

But Rachel's words echoed: "All the energy he stole is bouncing back."

DAY 10: NOVEMBER 27TH.

I was sleeping 8 hours consistently now. No nightmares. No 3 AM wake-ups. No his presence.

The chest tightness—there for 14 months—was completely gone.

I felt... light.

Like I'd been carrying a 50-pound backpack for 14 months and someone finally took it off.

Coworkers kept commenting: "You're glowing." "You seem happier." "New medication?"

I just smiled and said I was sleeping better.

But internally, I was in awe.

Ten days. TEN DAYS for this pendant to do what 14 months of therapy couldn't.

DAY 12: NOVEMBER 29TH.

Getting ready for work when I got a text from unknown number.

My stomach dropped—another flying monkey?

I opened it.

"Susan, it's Jason. I know you blocked me. Texting from a friend's phone. I need to talk to you. Please. Something is really wrong and I think it has to do with you."

I read it three times.

"Something is really wrong and I think it has to do with you."

He FELT it. He felt the cord severing. He felt the energy reflecting back.

And he was reaching out desperate, trying to re-establish connection.

Two weeks ago, this text would've sent me into panic spiral.

But now?

I felt nothing. No fear. No guilt. No urge to respond.

I blocked the number and deleted the text.

And went to work.

DAY 14: DECEMBER 1ST.

Michelle sent another screenshot.

"Susan... I don't know if I should show you this but... Jason's girlfriend left him. He posted this an hour ago."

Screenshot: photo of Jason looking devastated.

Caption: "When you think you've found your person and they tell you they 'can't do this anymore.' 14 months down the drain. Feeling lost."

Fourteen months.

The exact time I'd been free from him. The exact time he'd been feeding on my energy while dating someone else.

And now, two weeks after I sealed the cord, she left.

Rachel predicted this. Day 14. Her ex's girlfriend left Day 14 too.

I stared at the screenshot.

Part of me felt vindicated. Part of me felt... free.

Like the final thread connecting me to him had been cut.

DAY 18: DECEMBER 5TH.

Two and a half weeks after putting on the pendant.

Walking to subway after work when my phone rang. Unknown number.

Almost didn't answer. But something told me to pick up.

"Hello?"

Silence. Then: "Susan?"

His voice. Jason's voice.

I should've hung up immediately. But I didn't.

Because I realized something:

His voice didn't affect me anymore.

No racing heart. No chest tightness. No flood of memories.

Just... sound waves.

A voice that used to control me. That used to live in my head. That used to drain me from 800 miles away.

And now it was just... sound.

"Don't call me again," I said calmly.

Hung up. Blocked the number. Kept walking to subway.

I touched the Golden Obsidian pendant at my throat.

Still there. Still cool. Still protecting me.

For the first time in 7 years—the entire relationship plus 14 months post-breakup— I was free.

Actually, completely, permanently free.

The cord was gone.

And I never heard from him again.

Day 1 vs Day 18 transformation

The difference 18 days made. The cord was sealed. I was finally free.

Why This "Mirror Shield" Works When Everything Else Failed—And What Kahunas Discovered About Energy Reflection

AFTER 18 DAYS OF TRANSFORMATION, I NEEDED TO UNDERSTAND WHY.

Why had this worked when $4,000 worth of therapy, energy healing, and crystals hadn't?

Why had the cord actually SEALED instead of just temporarily weakening?

And why had Jason's life fallen apart the moment mine got better?

I spent hours researching.

Reading everything I could find about Golden Obsidian, Hawaiian warrior traditions, and the science of energy protection.

And what I discovered changed how I understood everything.

LET ME EXPLAIN WHAT I LEARNED.

For 14 months, I'd been using the WRONG TYPE of protection.

Not because it was bad.

But because it was designed for a different kind of threat.

Think about it like this:

If someone throws water at you, you need an umbrella.

But if someone is DRAINING water from you through a hose, an umbrella does nothing.

You need to CUT THE HOSE.

That's what I'd been getting wrong.

HERE'S WHAT MOST PROTECTION STONES DO:

Black tourmaline, selenite, amethyst, rose quartz—they all work the same way.

They ABSORB negative energy.

Like a sponge soaking up water.

This works great for:

  • Clearing a room's energy
  • Protecting against random negative vibes
  • Absorbing environmental stress

But here's the problem:

Sponges get saturated.

Once they're full, they can't absorb anymore.

That's why your black tourmaline works great for 2-3 weeks... Then suddenly stops.

That's why you have to "cleanse" crystals constantly.

That's why energy healers tell you to leave them in moonlight or bury them in salt.

Because they're FULL of the energy they absorbed.

And if you don't cleanse them, they start LEAKING that energy back into your field.

Which is why you might actually feel WORSE after a few weeks of wearing saturated crystals.

BUT NARCISSISTIC FEEDING IS DIFFERENT.

It's not random negative energy floating in a room.

It's a TARGETED DRAIN.

An energetic cord connecting your field to theirs. 24/7.

Even when you're 800 miles away.

Even when you have zero contact.

Even when you blocked them everywhere.

The cord stays open.

And through that cord, they're actively pulling your energy like water through a hose.

Absorption stones can't help with this.

Because they're designed to soak up ambient negativity—not block an active drain.

It's like using a sponge to stop a siphon.

It doesn't address the actual problem.

Absorption stones vs Golden Obsidian reflection

Why absorption stones fail—and why Golden Obsidian's reflection works.

THAT'S WHERE GOLDEN OBSIDIAN IS DIFFERENT.

Golden Obsidian doesn't ABSORB.

It REFLECTS.

Like a mirror bouncing light back before it reaches your eyes.

When a narcissist sends energy toward you—through the cord, through their thoughts, through their intention to drain you—

That energy hits the Golden Obsidian and bounces straight back to them.

Before it ever penetrates your field.

Which means:

  1. You never absorb the attack
  2. The stone never gets saturated
  3. The protection works indefinitely
  4. The narcissist starts receiving their OWN energy back

This is why ancient Hawaiian warriors wore it.

When enemy kahunas sent "death prayers" (energetic attacks designed to drain life force before battle), the Golden Obsidian mirror shield would reflect those attacks back to the kahuna who sent them.

The warrior stayed protected.

The kahuna would end up draining HIMSELF.

Eventually, kahunas learned: don't attack warriors wearing mirror shields.

Because you'll just hurt yourself.

What 287 Other Abuse Survivors Experienced—And Why Their Narcissists Started Avoiding Them Within 14 Days

I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE.

After my transformation, I became obsessed with reading other women's experiences.

I went back to SPIRAD's website and read every single testimonial.

Then I found the private Facebook group for customers.

287 women. All abuse survivors. All who'd tried everything else first.

And all who experienced the same pattern I did.

THE TIMELINE WAS EERILY CONSISTENT.

I started documenting:

DAYS 1-3: The Sleep Returns

Almost every woman reported sleeping through the night within first 48-72 hours.

Jennifer from Portland:

"I slept 8 hours straight for first time in 9 months. Woke up crying because I forgot what that felt like."

Melissa from Chicago:

"Night 2. No nightmares. No 3 AM panic. I had a DREAM instead of reliving trauma."

Sarah K. from Austin:

"My Apple Watch tracks sleep. Before pendant: 4.5 hours with 8-12 wake-ups per night. After 3 days: 7.5 hours with 1-2 wake-ups. This is real."

DAYS 3-7: The Energy Shift

Within first week, women reported feeling "lighter."

Chronic exhaustion lifted. Brain fog cleared. Heaviness in chest disappeared.

Amanda from Seattle:

"Day 5. My coworker asked if I'd started new medication because I seemed 'so much more present.' Haven't changed anything except this pendant."

Rachel M. from Denver:

"Constant exhaustion I blamed on 'adrenal fatigue'? Gone in 6 days. My doctor was shocked by my energy levels at checkup."

Lindsey from Miami:

"Day 7. Realized I hadn't thought about him ONCE that day. Intrusive thoughts just... stopped."

DAYS 5-10: The Flying Monkeys Retreat

This shocked me most.

Woman after woman: His friends, his family—suddenly backed off.

Maria from Boston:

"Day 8. His sister who'd been texting weekly trying to 'mediate' sent final text: 'You feel different. Best we don't talk anymore.' I didn't respond. She just... knew."

Tanya from Phoenix:

"His best friend who'd been showing up at my gym 'coincidentally' for 6 months? Stopped after Day 9. Switched gyms. Never said a word to him."

Jessica from Nashville:

"Day 6. His mom called: 'I don't know what you did, but you're not the same person. You feel... protected. Untouchable.' Then never called again."

It was like Golden Obsidian created an energetic force field that repelled anyone connected to him.

They could FEEL it. Even if they didn't understand it.

DAYS 10-18: The Narcissist's Life Collapses

Within 2-3 weeks of sealing the cord, narcissistic exes experienced rapid, cascading life failures.

The pattern was so consistent it was almost scary.

Car troubles. Job loss. Relationship failures. Health issues. Financial problems.

All within days or weeks of victim sealing the cord.

Brittany from San Diego:

"Day 11: His car broke down. Day 14: Fired for 'performance issues.' Day 19: New girlfriend moved out. I didn't celebrate. Just watched in shock as universe collected what he owed."

Nicole from Philadelphia:

"My ex was successful real estate agent when I left 11 months ago. Still feeding on me remotely because he was thriving. Within 3 weeks of Golden Obsidian: biggest client fired him, car totaled (his fault), posted on Facebook asking to borrow money. The energy he'd been stealing was keeping him afloat."

Lauren from Atlanta:

"Day 7: His new supply called me (!) asking if I'd 'done something to him' because he'd become 'obsessed' with me suddenly. Day 12: She left him. Day 16: He showed up at my apartment begging me to 'undo whatever I did.' I closed the door in his face. Cord is sealed. Nothing to undo."

Danielle from Minneapolis:

"I put on pendant November 3rd. By November 21st (18 days), my narcissistic ex had: crashed motorcycle, been suspended from teaching job for 'erratic behavior,' checked into rehab for 'anxiety.' His life fell apart in exact timeframe mine came back together."

THE PATTERN WAS UNDENIABLE.

These weren't isolated incidents. This was happening to HUNDREDS of women.

Same timeline. Same progression. Same mirror effect.

One woman in the Facebook group put it perfectly:

"It's like they were running on stolen fuel. The moment we sealed the cord, their tank emptied. Then all the energy they'd stolen came crashing back at once. Universe doesn't forget. It just waited for us to stop being the crash pad."

BUT HERE'S WHAT SURPRISED ME MOST:

The narcissists could FEEL when the cord was sealed.

Multiple women reported exes reaching out in panic around Day 10-14.

Desperate texts. Strange calls. Showing up unannounced.

All with same theme: "Something is wrong. Did you do something to me?"

Samantha from Charlotte:

"Day 13: He texted from random number: 'I can't feel you anymore. What did you do? I need to see you.' Didn't respond. He texted 47 more times over 3 days. Each one more panicked. Then... silence. He finally got it. Supply was cut off."

Morgan from Kansas City:

"Day 11: He called crying (!!) saying he felt 'disconnected from everything' and needed my 'energy' to feel normal. He literally SAID 'energy.' I laughed and hung up. Last time I heard from him."

Kayla from Las Vegas:

"Day 14: Showed up at my workplace. Security escorted him out. He was screaming I'd 'done black magic' and could feel me 'blocking him.' Coworkers thought he was insane. But I knew exactly what he was feeling: the mirror shield. And his own energy bouncing back."

THESE WEREN'T JUST STORIES.

These were 287 documented cases of the same phenomenon.

Women drained for months or years after leaving. Women who'd spent thousands on therapy and healing. Women who'd tried every crystal, cord-cutting, protection ritual.

Nothing worked long-term. Until Golden Obsidian.

Within 2-3 weeks:

  • ✓ Sleep restored
  • ✓ Energy returned
  • ✓ Intrusive thoughts stopped
  • ✓ Flying monkeys retreated
  • ✓ Narcissist's life collapsed
  • ✓ Cord permanently sealed

The pattern was so consistent it couldn't be coincidence.

This was real. Measurable. The protection ancient warriors staked their lives on.

And it was working for modern abuse survivors the same way.

ONE WOMAN'S TESTIMONY MADE ME CRY.

Her name was Catherine from Richmond, Virginia.

She'd been out of her narcissistic marriage for 3 YEARS.

THREE YEARS. And still being drained.

Still waking at 3 AM. Still feeling his presence. Still exhausted despite "all the healing work."

Her therapist said "complex PTSD." Her energy healer said "cords particularly strong." Friends said "more time."

But time wasn't healing anything.

Then she found SPIRAD. Ordered Golden Obsidian. Put it on March 15th, 2024.

Here's what she wrote March 22nd (Day 7):

"I don't know how to explain this. For THREE YEARS I've been haunted. Therapy helped my mind but my body was still imprisoned. I thought this was just... my life now. That some part of me would always belong to him.

I've worn this pendant for 7 days.

The presence is gone. The 3 AM wake-ups are gone. The exhaustion is gone.

But here's the part that made me sob this morning:

I woke up and the first thought I had was about what I wanted for breakfast. Not him. Not his voice. Not his energy.

Breakfast.

A normal, boring, beautiful thought about BREAKFAST.

I haven't had a morning thought that wasn't about him in 3 years.

The cord is gone.

After $12,000 in therapy and energy healing over 3 years, a $49 pendant did in ONE WEEK what nothing else could.

I'm free. Actually, permanently, impossibly free.

If you're reading this and still haunted by someone you left—even if it's been YEARS—please try this. Please. You deserve to think about breakfast again."

I READ THAT TESTIMONY FIVE TIMES.

Then I understood why I needed to share my story.

Because there are thousands—maybe tens of thousands—of women out there right now.

Women who left their narcissists months or years ago. Women who did everything "right."

Therapy. Boundaries. No contact. Healing work.

But who are still being drained remotely.

Still waking at 3 AM. Still feeling their ex's presence. Still exhausted in ways that don't make sense.

Still imprisoned by an invisible cord nobody taught them how to seal.

And they think it's their fault.

They think THEY'RE not healing fast enough. They think THEY'RE too damaged. They think THEY need more therapy, more time, more work.

But the problem isn't them.

The problem is the cord was never sealed.

And absorption stones, cord-cutting ceremonies, and talk therapy can't seal it.

Only a mirror shield can.

The same protection ancient warriors used 2,850 years ago. The same protection restricted to royalty. The same protection now available—finally—to the women who need it most.

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